Social media, satellite, channels are teaching modern education to our generation. They have their own way to treat life, fight for happiness, and acquire what they want. Parents seem to be hopeless at this stage of life. Why? so many reasons behind such rebellion. A child wants freedom at a teenage no matter if she is a girl. But, your narrow-minded thinking keeps them away from your kindness and shelter. This is actually the right time when parents and children need proper psychiatric treatment to understand the feelings of each other. Hardness in your attitude will never lead you to create a trustful relation among you. On every sight, you look like an enemy of a teenager.
A growing child is learning from its surroundings, polite, and understands the guidelines of the guardian. But when enter in teenagers want you to treat them like a boss; follow the instruction, value decisions and share secrets with them. Why secrets? Because teenagers are very curious to make friends; especially with the opposite gender. Now! the problem is they can’t keep this secret, therefore, they need a trustful friend to whom they can share the same. Who? we have to ask this question from ourselves; why our children are finding a friend to share their secrets instead of us? Why we aren’t building our trust in them for such sharing?
Our children didn’t raise their voice since childhood, no matter for what reason. Therefore, they don’t think their parents are a reliable person who keeps secret safely. They scared, rebel, and find someone reliable to whom they can trust and love? What happens in some cases; the head of the family forces family members to marry girls at an early age to prevent sexual transgressions and consequent damage to the family’s reputation. However, the Child Marriage Restraint Act prohibits marriage before 18 years. Recent High Court ruling allows men can marry underage girls, under Sharia law, after she experienced her first menstrual cycle.
It is what you have to decide whether you are ready to respect your child or become the enemy of a teenager. It is not a big deal to spend your precious time with your family especially when you have teenagers at home. Make them words with you, make them a part in the family decisions, and respect their feeling. Build so much trust that they bound to inform you before taking any serious step in their life. Don’t impose your experience in their life. Let them live freely and make yourself ever ready to support them in difficulties.
We hope your act of kindness will give you an unbreakable and reliable friendship. If you want respect you have to give respect to others.